Hey mate. I wouldn’t say anything about all this being because of her choice. If you have to I used to use ‘this is the reality of your decision ‘. That’s as far as I could push back with my XW as she could be an absolute monster. It all depends how hard hearted your w is
Say you’ll meet her directly later this week to discuss. That’ll buy you time to think and compose yourself. Dress nice, slim fit clothes, new cologne etc and pump iron in the meantime!
When you meet up buy more time by saying you’re looking at refinancing house over to you and your enquiries are taking longer than you expected.
Dunno your role dynamic during the M. Did you do the organisation and carrying out of these types of major issues?
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24