I think it is wise that you and your h date for a while before he returns home. He's got a lot of hard work ahead of him and he needs to earn your trust. He will have to be transparent in all that he does. When he does return home, it will have to be a new marriage and the old one tossed out the window. You both are now different people because of what you both have experience during this time of separation. He still has a long ways to go. He has to fix himself...you will need to allow him to make his own mistakes and learn how to fix them. You can't rescue him...he will need to be accountable for all of his actions.
Dig deeper for patience as he will have 18-24 months of learning to live in his own skin and feel comfortable being back at home.
You've given him plenty to think about and hopefully, he will get his act together and make an appointment for IC while you are away.
Now is the time for you to look forward to your trip and recharge your battery. Travel safely.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
