Thanks, it's strange with all that has happened but I still sometimes have to remind myself she isn't the person I knew.
Originally Posted by HaWho
Kyh - it’s nice to hear an update from you.
Regarding relationships and you wondering when you are “good enough,” that comment your wife made that you have too much respect for women, made me want to reach out and say you are always good enough! I would kill for a guy who had too much respect for women!!! And there are lots of with-it, attractive women who are looking for guys with that quality.
There was a point where I separated myself from it all too. It all went way too left field for me. Suddenly my ex’s type was bimbo. And he went so far as to tell me I needed to be less intelligent to save the marriage! I was always highly educated and he knew that when he chose to marry me and stay with me for 18 years. He changed.
These are her issues, not yours.
From what I recall, you had a lot of hobbies at home. Maybe you should consider taking on something outside of home? A sports team? It might be good for you in various ways. It helped me heal. After years of being told everything I was not/being projected onto, people were always telling me positive things about myself.
Stay positive! You are the prize.
Hi HaWho, it's good to hear from you. I hope you and your boys are doing well.
Thank you for your reply. IDT I ever posted that before, but that is one of the few things that really got my self confidence that I haven't shook yet. I can laugh at a lot of what she said or did now but there are still those few things that really hurt. When I read "these are her issues" in your post, relating it to the last book I read, it occurred to me that maybe xw doesn't/didn't think she deserved respect. I do feel bad for her.
There's not much less attractive than a bimbo, especially as the mother of your children. They really do go off the deep end.
I've been having neck trouble which has really slowed me down. My doctor told me not to run anymore so it limits my physical activity quite a bit. I've thought about doing yoga somewhere (like getting in shape to start going to the gym, I've stuck with it almost daily for over a year so I think I could now lol) but I need my work to slow down. I've been out of town every other week when I don't have my kids all summer so I don't see a point in it right now. I do need to figure out more socially, I was trying to be active in the single parents group, hopefully it will pick back up. I've always struggled with this but moving right before the BD has made it even harder.
