Regarding relationships and you wondering when you are “good enough,” that comment your wife made that you have too much respect for women, made me want to reach out and say you are always good enough! I would kill for a guy who had too much respect for women!!! And there are lots of with-it, attractive women who are looking for guys with that quality.
There was a point where I separated myself from it all too. It all went way too left field for me. Suddenly my ex’s type was bimbo. And he went so far as to tell me I needed to be less intelligent to save the marriage! I was always highly educated and he knew that when he chose to marry me and stay with me for 18 years. He changed.
These are her issues, not yours.
From what I recall, you had a lot of hobbies at home. Maybe you should consider taking on something outside of home? A sports team? It might be good for you in various ways. It helped me heal. After years of being told everything I was not/being projected onto, people were always telling me positive things about myself.
Stay positive! You are the prize.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
