Midlife wife crisis9

[Wolfman]

Wolf all you can do is move on with your life. Do what you want to do and spend time with the people that you enjoy being with.

We seem to be in the same boat. I don't get it either. My W just walked away and left her responsibilities behind. I thought we had a good marriage overall. Laughed a lot together and enjoyed time with each other. But something changed...maybe it was depression or her dad dying/being sick or maybe she really just doesn't want to be with me. But as of now, she's been clear she doesn't want this life so I need to move on. And so do you.

Maybe they'll regret it down the road. Maybe they'll want to reconcile. Maybe both of us will have found someone better suited for us by then and we won't be interested in reconciling.

I'm often shocked that I'm in this position. Came out of nowhere. But...time to man up. If she doens't want to be with me then good riddance to her. I'll be ok. So will you.

Same exact thing here. When my friends daughter drowned it made her question life. And that life is short and that she needs to live it up!! I have said it before not sure if you have been following my situation but we went on 5 vacations a year, went to dinner all the time, just always together, then that tragic event and she did a complete 180. Tonight is a perfect example of her 180. Friday nights for years she never wanted to do anything, complained how tired she always was. Ever since our separation she stays out late on Friday’s, 1-2 am. The point I am trying to make is how does someone for years never want to go out on a Friday, talk about how tired she is and to never make plans on a Friday to now staying out late every Friday? This is not the same woman I married. And I don’t think the “one” I married will be coming back. So all I can do is move on with my life.
Jac sorry you are going through this, this really stinks!!! I won’t understand nor am I trying to understand anymore how someone changes so much? How she talked about how much she wanted a family and to always be together to this!! All I know is I am not waiting anymore for her. I know I am a great guy and I deserve a great woman!!