She feels that I have, but I really haven’t. Because I have had so many people people wanting control in our home, I’ve had to be diplomatic about what I say or do and so she feels that I’ve lied to her.
I don’t snoop on her or spy on her because we’re not living together. I did put a tracker on her car. I told a few people I thought there was an affair when this started, but haven’t said anything since. I know I hurt her emotionally, so that might be why.
Her perception is her reality, so I’m trying to validate her feelings. My biggest issue is her parents. They hate me and don’t want me in her life anymore. They are very controlling and will stop at nothing to get what they want. She will take their side over anyone else.
Originally Posted by Steve85
Originally Posted by HrtHsbnd
I also have another question.
She keeps telling me she doesn’t trust me. I’ve never cheated on her and I’ve never given her a reason to betray her trust. This all started because I was upset with her for 8 months about a house we both tried to get. We are real estate agents.
Why does she say she can’t trust me?
Have you ever lied to her? Spied on her? Snooped on her? Told people things behind her back? Did you ever not doing something she trusted you would do?
Trust is more than cheating. Being upset with her for 8 months, essentially holding a grudge against her, is betrayal. Again, even if you've been perfect, empathize with her. Her perception is HER reality.
