Yeah I’m absolutely trying to take this slow. Right I need to focus on her actions. So far we haven’t had a serious R talk about expectations for R. I don’t really know when the time for that would be, but I am trying to gauge where she is right now and if the fog is lifting. I imagine that when we have this talk would be the time to ask her to go to IC.
For now I’m focused on spending a little more time with her and just talking and seeing how I feel.
About a week ago, after she spoke of wanting to work on things, we went on a date. It went well and conversation was smooth. She asked if we could stop at my house after and we had S*x. Lots of making out. Even when we were at the restaurant.
Since then she has texted every day asking about my day and talking about other things. She has requested another date next week as well as a family dinner on a separate day with our S. Not sure what the process is now. She has also called me a couple times just to talk. She regularly sends me pictures of herself. She has even sent a s*xy picture.
After the last date she disclosed to me how she is struggling with depression. Could be post partum but I’m not sure.
She also mentioned a couple of times moving back in with me but it was said as we were joking around so I’m not sure the seriousness of the comment, as well as I know we are not currently in a place where that would be a good idea haha.
I’ve been reading some of the piecing threads and the general consensus is that this takes time for both parties. That there is no rush and to just take things slowly. There has been no disrespect from her. She has been pleasant toward me and seems to be interested in me. The partying seems to have stopped or decreased. The past few nights she hasnt had S, she texted and sent me pictures most of the night.
Obviously she will still go out with her friends which I don’t have a problem with unless it is irresponsible binge drinking till 2am. I know I shouldn’t believe what she says, but she told me that she hasn’t been out drinking excessively lately as well as saying that she never drinks on weekdays.
Sorry kind of rambling here but just wondering if I should be accepting these invites, obviously I will decline if I have prior plans. I tried rereading DR but was a little confused about which advise would apply to my current sitch.
