Brene Brown says there are four qualities to empathy: 1. Perspective Taking 2. Non-Judgement 3. Recognizing emotion in other people 4. Feeling that
Yesterday my partner had an IC session. I feared her IC encouraged her to take a step back, so when I asked her about her session and she said she was too tired to talk, that fed into my fears. It's hard to validate when you're being judgy. My relationship's not on a knife's edge anymore, but I can do better.
Originally Posted by "Ske0187"
The actual purpose was to point out that I was demonstrating something she had so much emphasis on in our M and that her expectations were so low that she missed the fact that I was trying to listen to her intently. I didn't want to say, "Look at me I'm changing!!"
I see, you wanted her to realize repeating things was actually an example of you trying to communicate better. I get what you're trying to do. Mixing validation and disagreement can be tricky.
