You can´t nice her back BB. And you can´t force her back with ultimatums. She´s wayward. Get out from any MR talk. Just show her you are moving forward. No time for words. Enough talking. Just action. You need to get your respect back, there´s none of it now.
Keep getting amoafwl. Keep reading the books, keep posting here. Detach, GAL. DB
Stay strong BB. There´s a long road ahead. Start walking. Forward.