I can tell you with 100% certainty that it's actions, not words, that will attract her. So, stop with the words, save them for someone who will really listen.
Don't give in!!!
Great advice, thank you. I am certainly trying this. I am not checking my phone all the time to see if she's messaged. When this all started in May I used to get really nervous when I saw she'd text me, now when she does I don't. I am definitely feeling like I'm detaching.
My actions currently are focussed on exercise, celebrating passing my exams (my parents have said they'll buy me a couple of things I've had my eye on for a few weeks as a well done), making a bit of money selling stuff on Ebay, keeping myself attractive (haircut every 4 weeks, grooming routine and sticking to it, wearing my expensive cologne to work), and enjoying simple things like feeling the breeze, or watching the birds in my parents' back garden every morning as I have my breakfast.
There are times recently when I feel *good* about life.
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020
