[quote="JC08"]Says she loves and cares for me, and always will, but just cant get over the affair. She cant see that she is doing the exact same thing.
I don't see these as equivalent. You had a 1+ year secret physical and emotional affair. Your wife told you the marriage was over, and only after you chose to leave, she began a new physical relationship.
I get your ex-wife fell in love with OM the last month you were together. That was a betrayal.
Well When she told me that we needed to separate, she said that it was just to get space and, she said it was for us to work on the marriage. We had went to MC, our first session, and she told the therapist that she wanted our marriage, but was afraid she would have these feelings and fear forever. The therapist explained how we would work through thing, talked about EMDR, and asked my wife if fixing our marriage was our goal. So I was surprised when she asked me to move out, but I actually assumed, because she promised me that she wasn't thinking about divorce, she just needed some space. I left on Wednesday, She went to see OM Thursday, the first night I had the kids. I guess at the time I thought I was doing things to give her space and our marriage was still the focus.
But I am fully aware that they are not on the same level. I wished she would have opened up to me about where she was really at. I stupidly thought things were great, if I would have known how she felt I would have asked about MC, I would have researched more, but I was dumb by not seeing how to actually repair from an affair, I thought it was behind us.
Me 34 Her 34 T:16 years M:11 4 Daughters: 10,7,6,3 Her EA May 2019 Separated July 30th 2019 Her PA Started August 1st, 2019 Filed October 3rd, 2019
