If this is dropping the rope, how does piecing work?
Oh man. Have you kept up on Steve's threads? It really highlights the ups and downs of piecing. It's hard work. It's difficult for the LBS to learn to trust the WAS again, and it's tough for the WAS to commit and not stray back to old ways. It's actually a lot easier to start a new R with someone else in my opinion. I'm not saying it's not worth the hard work, but just strictly from an effort point of view a new R is so much easier.
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I can't imagine ever wanting to be in a relationship where my job is to convince someone else of my worthiness of love and respect ever again. I don't plan on doing that with him or with anyone else. Does that mean I will be spending the rest of my time alone?
Not at all, BD makes us feel worthless and unworthy of others but as we recover and start meeting people/ flirting/ talking and eventually dating, we realize we are so far above that kind of treatment. We are high-value! We're loyal, dependable, stable people. The kind of people that others out there are actively searching for. You'll eventually realize that others need to prove their worth to you, not the other way around.
