Thank you all who have replied. Little over three months in and I have brief periods of my brain and body relaxing. Today is not one of them. I am creating a binder and printing out all emails and texts sent by XW. The divorce is final but from the last few emails I believe I need to be prepared for her taking me to court over visitation. The part that scares me is that the end result will most likely be the end of D13 and XW relationship. I know it is out of my hands and so I continue to concentrate on my life and being D13's rock. Putting together this binder and rehashing the entire three months has me throwing up every couple hours and the pain in my heart is almost unbearable. I knew XW since she was 17 and loved her unconditionally. After her first affair she helped me to rebuild trust in our marriage and then sent me a text (couple months ago) saying she broke up with me a long time ago and has been faking it ever since. She deceived me and everyone in my family for 10 years. She led me to believe that we were amazing together and that she loved me. She shattered my heart, my dreams, my daughter while I am left to pick up the pieces.


1st BD December 26, 2008
PA admitted to by XW December 29, 2008

2nd BD May 23, 2019
Daughter confirms EA
Divorce Finalized July 18, 2019