Just a thought Steve considering she is a SAHM, Christ follower, etc. Maybe she could fit the mold of desiring something different, "the bad boy", the lifestyle of no responsibilities, etc.
One of my XW's best friend was married to a guy for 20 years who was a buttoned up, polo guy, clean shaving, good dad, your proto typical professional.
She divorced him for some dude that was bald, had a bunch of tat's, a big old foo man choo, and was jacked. Looked like he was straight out of some motorcycle club.
Just explore the possibilities of what her desires might be.
So which one do you think I fall into? LOL
I shave my head. I have a tat. I usually wear a foomanchoo/goattee (though I am growing a full beard for hunting season). Admittedly I am less "jacked" than I was when her and I met.
However, I also clean up pretty well, where polos to work, and am successful at work as well.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018