Maybe her problem isn't yours to solve. Maybe what is missing is on her. From some of the stuff you shared, I tend to believe it is.
Steve, I expect you and I are alike in often thinking that we have to fix everything. I think that is often a big mistake.
Boundaries and let them figure out what is missing. Just don't think you can always do it.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.