I find it absolutely bizarre that there are 'two-sides' of a conversation around the need for truth and transparency in a relationship. Aren't we LBS's so gung-ho on holding our partners to this line when we have been deceived? I find it intriguing that you are asking your W to meet a standard that you won't meet yourself. And the values I described are part of every single faith in this world, so it's not something out of left field.
Maika, I completely understand that. But there are people that advocate NOT burdening your spouse with things so far in the past, and they have good reasons for advocating that. I think it would be much more black and white of an issue if we were talking about 6 months ago, or even a couple of years ago.
Again, I am definitely not saying you are wrong. And I may even end up fully heeding your advice.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
