Says she loves and cares for me, and always will, but just cant get over the affair. She cant see that she is doing the exact same thing.
I don't see these as equivalent. You had a 1+ year secret physical and emotional affair. Your wife told you the marriage was over, and only after you chose to leave, she began a new physical relationship.
I get your ex-wife fell in love with OM the last month you were together. That was a betrayal.
Originally Posted by "JC08"
Occasionally.. she a lot of times would ask me if I really wanted her, If I really loved her, that I didn’t stay because of guilt..
If she's anything like me, she felt this far more than she vocalized this. Yesterday my partner saw her IC, was too tired to talk most of the day, and send me lots of loving words and emojis. A part of me can't help but think, "That's what she did the last time she betrayed me by moving out days after saying she never would." You also say she believes in soulmates, and that you have a PA/EA goes against that notion.
Originally Posted by "JC08"
THEN, We go out with some friends one night and a customer/acquittance of mine went with us
Oof. Bad timing to encounter a predator.
Originally Posted by "JC08"
So what are my chances?
Advantage #1 you have over the average person is you know this is a marathon. Your PA/EA lasted over a year, it took you 3-4 months to get over it, and the betrayed partner obviously needed even longer.
Advantage #2 You know OM is a serial womanizer who's done this 4x before. The statistician in me wonders, how long do those usually last? Who ends it? Why? Past history is often a good indicator.
