We can all discuss tactics and strategies till the sun burns out, but what's missing from this conversation is 'values'. What are your values Steve? What values do you believe build a strong relationship? For me, that is honesty, trust, transparency, kindness, accountability, and love.
Drive your actions from your values. I would put everything out in the open and then see if this marriage is worth saving. Yeah, that's scary, but that is the only way forward from my perspective.
This is “my point” I was trying to drive home. For the benefit of you and your marriage Steve, not because I’m touting what’s “right” and what’s “wrong”
I didn't mean what is right or wrong from a religious standpoint. I meant what is right and wrong for my marriage. As I said, I see both viewpoints, and there are merits on both sides of the argument.
I guess if it wasn't my sitch I would advocate for what you and Maika are. I need to think and pray on it some more.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
