W has been experiencing MLC symptoms for about 18 months. W stays at a friend's house each night and returns to run her business each morning. I do not say or initiate anything when she leaves at night or when she arrives in the a.m. If she says "goodbye" or "have a good night," I will return the same. Sometimes I get a kiss goodbye or half-hug, but I do not initiate. We have S18 (just went away to college!) and S10, and almost all of our communications revolve strictly around the kids or finances/bills. I do not text or call her, and only respond if she reaches out. Last night when she left, she said "Text me if you need anything." I did not text her.
I am working on detaching and finally feel like it's finally beginning to happen. I work out regularly and have lost 30 lbs. I spend my time away from work completing my bachelor's degree or looking for new things to do with my S10. We are in MC, and I have no expectations as to where that will lead. But I know that I will be okay no matter what happens. Focused on improving my life while she winds her way through the darkness.
All of your input/comments has been tremendously helpful. Thank you!
Me 47, W 43 Together 25 years M 20 years Separated 7/5/19 S18, S10
