If this is dropping the rope, how does piecing work? I can't imagine ever wanting to be in a relationship where my job is to convince someone else of my worthiness of love and respect ever again. I don't plan on doing that with him or with anyone else. Does that mean I will be spending the rest of my time alone?
Hi Alison. Good to hear you have dropped the rope. It is a very hard thing to do, and I would seem to think that it's something all LBS have to constantly work at.
I think piecing begins to happen when the WAS starts to wake up out of the fog and begins to pursue the LBS. Of course by that point the LBS may have decided that they do not want to be with someone like the WAS anymore, or they may in fact have moved on to a new R. I think a lot of this depends on the time it takes the WAS to go through their issues and how patient the LBS is.
You won't spend the rest of your time alone if you don't want to. You have the control here on how long you choose to stand and on if or when you decide to move on.
For me, it's been a little over a year now. Granted I am still IHS, but for all intents and purposes, that is how long I have been alone. It was awful for half a year, now I am used to it - but very saddened by it bc it is not what i want.
But i also know that this is all still a period of transition and my story is not finished yet. It seems that yours is not either.
