Steve, does your W know about your EA's? If so, how were they addressed at the time? I'm just curious that if she knew about them, her attitude now is "well you did it so I don't understand why you're making such a big deal out of me doing it".
AS, always feel honored to get your input. In fact, I was going to take a break from the forum, then saw you had responded. My W does know about the first 2. Not the last 2. At the time, after her very deep, and strongly connected EA in 2005, I came clean about the first two. We recommitted to each other and moved forward. Admittedly, I think she did more work in 2005 than I did. Yes, I know that hers was the situation that prompted the issues, but I didn't DB the way I could of. I didn't 180, GAL, nor find a healthy self-differentiation like I should have. Like a lot of immature husbands I felt that there was no in-between. Either I was doting, overly attached....or I was detached. I now understand the nuance of being lovingly detached in a healthy way, and still being being plugged into the MR and upholding my end.
I believe that if she knew about my last two, that attitude you suggest might be hers. But since the night I confronted, she has taken full ownership, and is willing to work to fix things.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
