I'm so sorry you will face another surgery, Oz. (((hugs)))

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I really don’t know how to mix DBing with handling this


IMHO, I think you should focus on what makes you feel optimistic. I may have said this in a previous thread, but I'll say it again. Be proactive in planning your days with the activities that make YOU feel good (physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally). Don't listen to songs that pull you down. Listen to upbeat/inspirational music. Make the same decision toward the films/programs you watch. Don't watch those sad movies. Don't even watch the evening news, if it bothers you. If you've been reading lots of self help type books, or books about MR........maybe you can put those on hold for a little while. If you love to read, maybe choose something just for leisure.

Have a support team. Check around to see if there is a local support group. IDK how your W will respond to the news. I realize you want her support, and I hope she will be there for you. Just don't rely solely on her to give you emotional support, b/c she may be too weak, IDK. I guess I am trying to tell you to not let her define how you face this challenge. In other words, if she doesn't give you what you need on any given day.........don't give up. Don't doubt your value. You have proven to be a strong man, Oz.

IMHO, you should not be burdened about your MR while you prepare for this surgery. Do what you think is right, based on your personal beliefs and standards. BTW, I'm not saying you should quit the board, okay? If you receive strength from the board, then by all means, continue to post. It doesn't have to be about your W/MR all time. You can talk to us about anything. I just don't want you spinning and overthinking about small stuff.

((hugs))

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!