I responded to my H and told him that since he initiated a messy situation I didn't have a choice other than to get an attorney of my own. I also said due to his consistent dishonest and recent bout of lying, I prefer we handle things through email. I stated that it wasn't for me to understand why he keeps lying but to take the information about his character and make decisions going forward based on the information I have.
I told him that we could settle without having a judge do so for us and if he didn't want to do that, I'm prepared either way. I also told him that since our S missed the bus a few times last year and wasn't able to stay out of trouble. Things I had previously discussed...that he was safe and we didn't need to worry about safety for him.
It felt good to respond and I tried not to attack him for being a liar... I am glad that I did point out that I know he wasn't being honest without really going into detail...
I feel super stressed lately. I hope this feeling goes away soon.
