Divorce because I betrayed her trust - THREAD 2

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AS Thank you for your reply.

I would have left the last part off, when you are validating you don't want to tell someone what your "intent" was or wasn't because by doing so you are telling them they have misinterpreted, and that their feelings and their reaction are wrong.

Yes I thought that as soon as I posted this response in the thread! Eventually I did leave that last bit off. I simply ended it with:

"I can see how you would be affected by it though. I will keep that in mind." That helped massively.

My attitude is that if she's too "proud" to reconcile then that's not someone you want to be with. If her pride is more important to her than you are then that should tell you something.

That's certainly something to think about. She's said "I'd always choose my family over a partner. Any day."

What I've found unattractive about her recently is the sudden change in mood, simply cutting off the M. I think she's very upset inside about deciding to end things between us, but I'm just frustrated at her refusal to seek IC for herself. She definitely needs to speak to a professional about everything and is just thinking that a couple of long phonecalls with her mum & sister plus some girly nights in at a mate's house will be all she needs.

I'm seeing my IC this evening. She has told me she has contacts near where my W is if she wishes to get IC for herself. Should I give my W those contact details - maybe a few weeks down the line?