We weren't fighting during the M. The fighting only happened after she found out about my addiction and separated. Recently things have been calm. She has accepted she wants out - I got ILYBNILWY.

So by "turning the porch light off" as you say, you mean I should completely detach, imagine that 'I'm done' and then see how she reacts to that?

Me - 36, W - 32
No kids
T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr
Discovery - 14 May 2019
S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019
D & House sale final - Feb 2020