4 months in....(Re: Advice needed)

[peacetoday]

It is very tough like purple heart tough to live with the MLCer

You are level headed and doing good-

Right now you can spend all your time healing and watching
Being there for the kids and watching his words and mostly his actions

This is all still very new and can turn in any direction but you can begin to trust yourself
that you will know what to do even if he does not

MLC seems tougher than most situations because it seems like they are being controlled by some illness or outside force and nothing will make them snap back to life

I can tell you that I put my time in with my XH MLC
I waited
I healed
I tried
I did therapy DB, alanon
I validated him, became his friend

I dont regret any of it--I stood by him
I never put him down to the kids-
Today my life is good-my kids are happy and sucessful

He left --He M OW--he was so sure he made the right choice
he was a sucessful and sober man and good father

Today he is miserable from what I hear..He lost everything, He is in debt, addicted to drugs ands alcohol and living somewhere unknown by his sisters and family
Unknown if he is still M or even alive-
Last job I knew of was at as a clerk in a store
He has no relationships with his kids or his lifetime friends
They do get consequesnses