You are doing so well. I'm so pleased that you went on holiday anyway. I am sure it was a surprise to him. Good.
Nothing has changed except he has thrown some crumbs your way.
I am a bit staggered with all the toys he keeps throwing out of his pram. So, you stated a fact: we cannot work on this M if you see her everyday. Perfectly reasonable and true. He had another job lined up so it wasn't exactly a difficult thing for him was it? But instead he sulked, gave it all the 'your not the boss of me' tripe and stated he couldn't be bothered working on it then. It's a tantrum. Unless you want to be married to a toddler; he's in no fit mind for you to be considering having a R with at the moment.
Nothing has changed. There is no need for an ultimatum (unless you want to) just keep DBing as you have.
If and when a man emerges from the toddler mind set then may be the time to see where this R can go.
