She has mentioned going to counseling to work on communication. I'm really unsure if it's for me or us because of her mindset right now. Communication is definitely one of MY issues but it is hers too. She doesn't acknowledge the A having anything to do with our issues. (What??!!)
Anyway...
The question is, do I tell her why I don't want to go right now? I want to in the future but my position is that I'm not going as long as she is still seeing the OP. Is that reasonable?
I don't see it being effective while she's still in the A and in her "I'm not sure if I want to stay married" fence sitting mode.
I'm not playing into her plan B. It's too degrading.
Me 56 W 42 T14 M12 ILYBINILWY 08/07/19 BD 08/11/19 Discovered Whaaaat? 2 Kids One DD 30mos Adopted from Foster 12/18 One DS 17mos Adopting First week of Sept 19 Separate BR 08/15/19
