Thanks Nut......yeah, I stay out of it, I don't get involved. If she asks me a question I will give her my opinion but other than that I am hands off. When he wants to play, rough house, etc. I immediately stop when he starts to fuss/get upset. That usually happens when I push back a little. For example, I was riding a tube on the lazy river and he wanted me to go under the waterfall so he was pushing me towards it. So I was like "ok buddy, if I am going your coming with me". So I got him on the tube and was holding him there as he was trying to get away. Obviously I am stronger than him so that wasn't going to happen so when he realized he couldn't get away he told me to stop and started crying. I immediately let him go and then his mom grabbed him and took him under the waterfall with her and then he told her she was being mean.
Afterwards she told me he gets upset when things don't go his way and he has to learn that when you are playing around things are going to happen. That he has to get used to it as that is part of horsing around.
Again he is not a bad kid, not mean or angry but this is probably an adjustment for him since he is used to being the King of his little castle with his mom, sister, and Grandma all treating him like he is the greatest thing since sliced bread as he is the only Grandchild in the family. I am very aware of it which is why I am not moving fast with creating this immediate, blended family. My girls are different as they are used to not always getting what they want because they have each other. I have also noticed him competing with me as well as his mom is giving me attention. Again, I am very aware. My oldest was trying to braid the Dr's. hair and when he came up he would have no part of it and in his own little way grabbed his mom's hair so that interfered with what my daughter was trying to do. My oldest looked at me like WTF and I just told her that it was ok and I got her mind focused on something else.
So far he is not into sports, she is putting him in swim lessons but he doesn't want to do anything that he could potentially lose at. He is in Cub Scouts, his mom has him in the Spanish program at school, and she reads bible verses to him every night and he memorizes them. So I guess he is sort of a nerd I guess or maybe forced into that roll by his mom. Maybe in the fall, when it gets cooler here in TX, I can see if he would engage in playing a sport.
