Appreciate the honesty and being candid Steve. EAs are a slippery beast to define and I am guessing when you say that you had EAs, you were engaged in some fantasy or sharing things that you wouldn't with your W. I've come to have a more sober look at EAs and I am not quite sold on them in the same way that I was before as I see there is a lot of nuance to it - but that's for another time.
Looks like you've worked through your EAs, but you still have a pattern just like your W. Have you done the self-reflective work on why this pattern exists? what are you doing differently now to meet your own needs by yourself to not have an EA? I believe this is an interesting piece of information because I think you need to address this pattern with her in counseling.
