Confessions aside. This is not about judging anyone. It's about assessing the situation and advising accordingly based on DB principles.
It's about advising how to proceed regarding the current turn of events.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.