onward and upward! Pt 2

[hoosjim]

On doing too much, I think your right. I thought I was supposed to be doing more of the insignificant touching. (Hand On back when walking by). That kind of thing. Maybe I should back off some?

Remember to keep things balanced. If you have kept your hands off her, and overnight you start touching her every chance you get..........then you are overdoing it. Even if they are non-sexual touches, you have to start off gradually.

Google "Kino" or the "art of touch" or both together-- there's lots of blogs, webpages, youtubes etc. There is a propriety and progression to physically touching other people, especially women and doubly especially with women in whom you have a romantic interest. Nutshell-- some body parts are "safe" to touch when establishing or re-establishing intimacy with a woman for the first time (and when progressing), and some will be a turn-off (and some will get you slapped, lol). Nutshell #2 is that confidence plays a HUGE role in it... You need to be confident when you touch a woman (not overbearing, just... confident). Women have a kind of hypersonic radar when it comes to unconfident men, so you need to a) not touch more often or in places that are not yet "appropriate" based on the stage of your relationship and b) be confident at whatever level of touch you are engaging in BEFORE you attempt it. DB-ing in general, if you are doing it right, should already be doing wonders for your confidence level in general. The term (Kino) and the "art" are both frequently encountered in the "pick up artist" community/subculture, so i was surprised when my very Christian IC/MC brought it up and suggested it in one of my early IC sessions-- she really is the best, lol). FWIW, the "pursuit/distance" dynamic is also frequently discussed in the "pick-up" community as well, and for very good reason... Both those dynamics (pursuit/distance and progressive touch) WORK.

Best of luck to you.