The divorce is signed by the judge and is final. My daughter is 13 and in 8th grade. While I have her she has been doing great and even looking forward to a wonderful future together. The last visitation my EXW without notifying me or telling D picked her up and took her to a therapy session with her therapist so they could work their mother daughter relationship. I am not against that I just asked her to notify me and to next time not surprise D with something like that. She just gave a bunch of excuses why she didn't tell me and never acknowledged that she would in the future. The therapist asked some really tough questions in front of her mom that she answered and my D hurt so bad after the visitation with EXW she told me she is going to refuse to see anymore therapists.
EXW is now also sending over the top love letters in the mail everyday to D who after reading them becomes horribly depressed and angry and can't function well the next day at school. During visitations she also grills D on what she is doing in all aspects of her life and D doesn't really want to talk to her about it but said she hounds her all the time about it. During the last visitation D tried to set some boundaries with EXW and that ended so horribly that D called me screaming to come pick her up. I picked her up and EXW did not fight me on it but did email me that it was technically her time but she wouldn't push the issue.
I have done my best to never bad mouth EXW to D but at the same time I am not going to lie to my D either. I believe if I lied to her that would come back to haunt me horribly since D has extreme trust issues right now. I have tried to be encouraging about things D could do during the visits that might help like painting her room, go for walks, craft, or watch TV with EXW. That is about as much encouragement I am willing to offer at this point especially since the more I try to push a relationship between them the angrier my D becomes at me. I was the stay at home dad and my daughter and I are very close and D understands she has hurt me and is in no way remorseful. D also feels like EXW has abandoned her and at this point is not sure if she is willing to pursue a relationship with her. She even has this validated by EXW because EXW has also cut all ties with her own mom (D grandma who D loves).
All I keep doing is trying to provide a stable home for my D and myself and to try not to let my emotions get out of control.
1st BD December 26, 2008 PA admitted to by XW December 29, 2008
2nd BD May 23, 2019 Daughter confirms EA Divorce Finalized July 18, 2019
