Weathering the Storm

[Coconut]

The lady I sent that message to did reach out, we conversed back and forth a couple of times, but then she ghosted so not going anywhere.

Figure I'll go a little more into detail about the FWB situation that I have going on. We meet on OLD, we started chatting and the conversation really went well, I think we ended up chatting that night for 3 or 4 hours straight and she said that she generally waits awhile before meeting someone in person but she was intrigued and wanted to meet, so we met up 2 days later and it's been going great since.

She's only 3 months post separation and in the process of the divorce proceedings, you have to be separated for a year here before you can D, but during that year they are working out all the financials, etc. She knows she isn't ready to commit to someone, she has been very clear and upfront about that. From what she's told me, she was married for 23 years, they met in college and have two kids 19 and 21. He was military, got PTSD and retired under disability about 5 years ago, he became emotionally abusive and she tried for a few years and then gave up on the marriage about 2 years ago and walked out 3 months ago because she began to fear for her safety.

We rarely talk on the phone, there is the occasional texting back and forth and we get together about once every week or two. Generally, we will go out on a Friday or Saturday and then she will stay over and we will do some adventure in the morning before she heads home.

For me it's working pretty well, I've been careful to not fall for her and remain detached, we get along very well when we are together and there are no expectations. I've taken her to a rodeo, antique shopping, hiking, to the middle of a state forest to watch the stars from the bed of my truck, etc.. All things that I would generally do alone, but she's enjoyed everything I've thrown at her and I've never felt pressure to make sure she enjoys herself.

Anyway, the company is good, the sex is great and I'm continuing to talk to other ladies. I'd be ok if she broke it off today, I would miss the companionship but I'm still doing my thing (btw - went hunting for the first time ever yesterday, went for Dove, I didn't get any but it was a fun day with the guys).. One thing I have noticed is that having her in my life has put a lot less pressure on trying to find someone, meaning I am literally fine with however dates go and don't get nervous before heading out to meet for the first time and I just feel more at ease with everything. Overall, while I know that there is NO long term possibility here, it has really been a good thing for me right now.