Is the rest of my life ruined???

[Ske0187]

Hi AS Thanks for the reply.

Once again great advice. No wonder so many people come here!

[quoteIn that case, just tell her that you are taking days X and Y each week to do your own thing. Tell her she is welcome to do the same if she chooses, that's up to her. ][/quote]

Perfect. She'll LOVE that...

Good. I would just add that before leaving say something like "I will not tolerate being treated this way, if you want to treat me with respect then I will listen, otherwise I am not interested." THEN leave.

I something similar but waaaay shorter. Not nearly as smooth. I don't even think she heard it. I'll use yours next time.

"This isn't what I want but I can see it is what you want so I will not stand in your way. But I am not leaving, that's YOUR choice to make."

I said that almost word for word. I didn't say "It's what you want." She always says, "You don't know what I want!!!" when I say stuff like that. Definite trigger!!

All the anger and spewing could be her trying to coerce you into pursuing S and/or D, she would definitely not be the first WAS to try this tactic. Just keep doing what you're doing- don't put up with her crap and don't let her sway you.

It sure seems that way but it could be part of a covert plan.

Hmmmm. I'll have to crunch those numbers and think about that.

You can't do it at another facility? If it's unavoidable then just go and do it. Don't say anything to her, just go and act like everything is fine.

No, I have to do it there. But....Now, I'm not sure I would. I might have to go there to shoot (My fav activity) and bask in their discomfort. I'm not generally vengeful or spiteful but there hasn't been very much in the consequence bin for her and nothing at all for him so it might be somehow deeply gratifying in a really sadistic, dark place in my otherwise pure heart...

I'll just go and be chill...

The responses to this post have made my day/month... THANKS AGAIN!!!