No worries Steve. Just after reading maikas post, I’m wondering if there’s unresolved childhood traumas that subconsciously drive her behaviour? If there’s one thing I learned since my bd is unresolved childhood trauma is sometimes the key. What’s the childhood story behind her. I self searched and reckon 90% of my behaviour is learned from childhood. I had no idea whatsoever before I found out and looked. Look to her childhood. Talk to her about this if this is possible. Read up about subconscious and preconscious behaviour. If she can’t control it it’s because she doesnt know the source. It’s worth a shot if you haven’t looked at this angle. Good luck


Me: early 40's
XW: nearly 50
T: 15
M: 5
BD: Jan 19
S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24