Is the rest of my life ruined???

[AnotherStander]

I did that last night. She had a blow up last night and then came to "Work things out." about the one sided argument. I didn't participate and went to my room. She doesn't want anything to do with scheduling.

In that case, just tell her that you are taking days X and Y each week to do your own thing. Tell her she is welcome to do the same if she chooses, that's up to her.

I just got up off of the couch and started taking the dog's out for the last time. She got really pissed and kept spewing.

Good. I would just add that before leaving say something like "I will not tolerate being treated this way, if you want to treat me with respect then I will listen, otherwise I am not interested." THEN leave.

She says I act like it's over and if I think it's over that I should just go ahead and move out.

"This isn't what I want but I can see it is what you want so I will not stand in your way. But I am not leaving, that's YOUR choice to make."

She says "I'm not moving out until we get the D." Okie dokie then...

All the anger and spewing could be her trying to coerce you into pursuing S and/or D, she would definitely not be the first WAS to try this tactic. Just keep doing what you're doing- don't put up with her crap and don't let her sway you.

She's loony right now.

It sure seems that way but it could be part of a covert plan.

I have a dilemma coming up. I have to qualify with a firearm every quarter. The W and her AP are instructors who will be running the qualification. I will actually have to see them both at the same time. I have no other choice.

What the best course of action here. It's completely unavoidable. There will be many other people (Co-workers) there who know us both and have no idea this is going on.

There are couple things I can ask her for. None of which are really feasible operationally.

I can ask her to not be there when I am.

I can ask her to make sure he's not there.

Asking her to do either goes against the rules here. Any ideas???

Thanks.

You can't do it at another facility? If it's unavoidable then just go and do it. Don't say anything to her, just go and act like everything is fine.