Hi Alison. I agree with what others have said. Who you tell and what you tell is entirely up to you and what is within your comfort zone. I’ve never been a super private person...my mom was and I remember she was horrified by me on occasion as I was the kid who would sit next to a stranger on a plane and tell them my life story. I think there are positives and negatives to that. The positive is that when you share things like this with other people, you get a lot of support and it feels less shameful as you will be surprised how many people have similar stories of their own. It also helps to make things more real and for me, it helped move me toward acceptance much quicker than I would have if I had kept everything to myself. The negative, which does not apply to my sitch, is that if you do decide to R, people in the know may or may not support you with this depending on how much of an a$$hole your spouse was to you during the process. I know in my sitch, my friends might support me but would think that I had lost my mind and self respect. On occasion, I have considered making a proclamation on FB about my divorce and my cheating spouse (during some of my more angry moments) but I know I would regret that at some point...he is still the father of my children and they deserve to have a good relationship with their dad even if he does not deserve it. So...maintaining a positive co-parenting relationship is my priority now even though there is a part of me that would love for him to get hit by the karma bus. Choosing better not bitter...lol. That phrase has saved me so many times!!!
Keep up the good work Alison. You are doing great! (((HUGS)))
