AS, thanks for such an extensive reply. Much appreciated.

I'm worried that if I don't reply at all, she will simply respond with "Really? No answer? Don't you care?" or similar.

I don't want to justify what I did - I realise that I should not have done it and left it there for her to find. I just wanted to, that was the problem. However, is it ok to not reply to that then? Not even to validate and say something like "I can see how overwhelming it might have been for you. It is not deliberate." and leave it at that?

Just seems rude to not reply.


Me - 36, W - 32
No kids
T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr
Discovery - 14 May 2019
S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019
D & House sale final - Feb 2020