Divorce because I betrayed her trust - THREAD 2

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OK I had a backslide of detaching.

As an anniversary present, I made my W a little gift - a short stop-motion film featuring all her Jellycat toys. I also included a lot of references to in-jokes that we've had over the years. The background music was 'our song'. Not the song that we had at our wedding, just a song that means a lot to both of us about our R.

I left it in the house a while ago. I had started it in March (before W found out everything), but wanted to finish it despite everything that had happened. I just left a note saying that there wasn't a good time to give it to her in person, I didn't want to leave it incomplete, and hope she liked it.

Anyway, she texted me today:

W: "I got the DVD you made. I don't understand why you would make it, especially with our song. You know it's going to make this so much harder for me to bare? Is it deliberate? I just don't understand you at all."

I haven't replied yet, but I'm going to say:

Me - "I do see how you would feel it’ll make things harder to deal with. That’s not why I did it - I’m not out to upset you. I’m just letting you know that I care for you, no matter what. I can imagine how it would be overwhelming at this time. It’s really not deliberate. That song means so much to both of us, and what’s in the film. My intention was only good."

I believe I'm validating here but not being too defensive. I won't say sorry as that suggests NGS to me - thoughts?