DS9 - it had been going on in the background for our entire relationship - 8 years. I'd been 'using' the sites from actually before we met, but exchanged chats with 2 women for 8 months from September 2018.
It's certainly part of NGS and my therapist has been great in identifying certain things too - fear of intimacy, poor body image etc.
She found out everything in May this year.
She had caught me previously - a few pics on my phone in Xmas 2017. She was angry but it only lasted a day or so. I slept in the spare room that night. She was ok afterwards but would bring it up occasionally for a month or so afterwards. Valentine's day was a bit awkward but she was fine after that.
In the last year or so we hadn't had a huge amount of sex. About 4 or 5 times January to May. I've covered this in earlier posts. She has a few illnesses and was also giving me the impression that she wasn't interested. Communication was an issue from both her and me; she wouldn't bring up her concern until it was too late, by which time I couldn't do anything to change things, and I would assume that there was no problem as she didn't bring it up. Weirdly, when we were separated we were intimate 6 times in one week in June (!).
I know, I was selfish and stupid to do what I did. I have remorse and am acknowledging my actions and consequences.
Last edited by Dan35; 09/03/1911:14 AM.
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020
