I was glad to read your update today. It sounds like you are settling in and becoming more accepting and comfortable in your life without him. That is good to read. It is also good for newcomers to see that things do change and improve, albeit slowly or at times painfully, and we still move forward without them or the M. I think you are learning why we call this new way of life a marathon and not a sprint -- it takes a very, very long time for this stuff to unfold. I am glad he is being respectful and no longer making things difficult for you or the kids. Hopefully he is doing some self reflection and personal healing.
I don't see anything inauthentic about your decision to not share everything with him or your new friends and family, not at all! This is your life and you don't owe anyone explanations or answers. I think privacy and self preservation are healthy and normal. It is okay to say you don't feel like talking about something when asked or even answer that it's a private matter. There is a reason that you are not sharing and it may not feel safe for you for whatever reason. Trust your gut. You are doing great!
I am worried about Dilly tho. She never came back in the last month, did she?
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
