Love life - everything’s been absolutely incredible. Amazing chemistry and compatibility . I am really really happy. And I don’t believe I have ever had these feelings before. I feel head over heels and I have never felt that. Not even for my ex husband. And it’s mutual so it just feels amazing. We both want the same things. We talk about future. Of course, I know how these things can go. I know time is the true revealer of all. I know how early it is and what can happen in 6 months, 8 months, a year. So I’m trying to just enjoy and keep my eyes open. It’s scary being vulnerable and trusting someone. It’s scary having feelings like this that I know people will say are not real. Or are red flags. Having kids is definitely pacing us.
Work life - I feel burnt out. I haven’t been super happy or enthusiastic about my job. I’m not feeling engaged or motivated. I haven’t had a real vacation in a while. When I take off it’s to work my other job or take care of my son.
Family - I also feel burnt out. My son is not really outgrowing these sensory seeking, hyperactive behaviors. It’s at the point where my brother with kids avoids him around his younger kids. And that made me feel really sick because my son loves them so much and would give the shirt off his back to them. I struggle to keep my patience and I’ve been losing it. I hate my ex because he does so little. When he does have him he makes sure to tell me what a good boy he is being for him. But his mom takes him for like half the day usually after he takes him to an arcade or someplace easy that distracts him. So he doesn’t see. I love my son. I love kids. But I’m tired and his behaviors aren’t the norm and sometimes I just don’t want to wake up cause I can’t handle it. He gets services at school. But when he’s home for a vacation, it’s so hard. I don’t like yelling and I find myself yelling and I don’t like it. I feel like I have sought help so many times and it’s at the point where nothing nearby helps. The only thing that helped was this program with intensive work outs and I just can’t do the long drive anymore for it anymore. By the time I put him to bed I’m exhausted.
Ex - he’s the same. I can’t stand how he treated me. I’m really glad to not be with him in a relationship. He was just selfish to the extreme. Most of the people that come here to divorce busters are dealing with personality disordered partners - liars, addicts, thieves, cheaters. The type of people that would be in jail if their marriage contract was viewed by a judge on similar terms that a business or work contract was. I’m not sure what newcomers is like anymore - but I think it should be more geared towards wards empowering people to say good riddance to dysfunction instead of supporting them to “win” back their lying, abusive exes.
