So I’ve spent the last 3 days on holiday with my kids. H decided not to come as he needed space. I went alone which I think he didn’t think I would do. I didn’t phone him or text him at all while there however he text a few times per day and tried to phone.
I ignored all calls until the last day when he asked me to phone him. I did (an hour later) and he talked about missing me and wanting to try and make our R work.
When I returned home last night we spent some time together and he got into my bath which he hasn’t done since May. he discussed his job situation. Tomorrow he needs to be at his new job at my school however he seems to want to stay at his old school. I have not made comment about either until last night. I said if he continued to work at that school then I wouldn’t be able to work on our R as he would be in contact with her everyday.
His response was then that he couldn’t be bothered working on it then or if it is worth it. I know this was probably too much pressure however I feel I would need some proof that he has ended the A or do I wait and see if it fizzles out as per the DR book and Healing from infidelity book.
He is not willing to attend any therapy for our R
I’m wondering how to go from here. If he chooses to stay at his work with the ow I know I shouldn’t give him an ultimatum but I wonder what I should say. The books sometimes seem conflicting/confusing.
