#14 Here we go again

[SteveLW]

Sandi, thanks. Good stuff. And I have lots to to think about. For the record, I didn't share my passwords. I think I'm an earlier post I mentioned that in 2005 I tried to lead by example and share my passwords. I haven't this time.

I also never told her the source of my info. She figured out that I saw the messages on her tablet, because it was orientated different than she leaves out after I snooped. However she thinks I saw them before she deleted them, therefore thinks I only saw his in her inbox. That's not how I saw them but I'm not disclosing the exact details.

I also want to let you know that I'm not buying what she's selling. I've taken everything with a grain of salt. I am not naive enough to believe that she's an innocent bystander, nor that she was never in full control and could have made different choices. You are dead on that if this was an isolated incident so be it, but as you point out it is a pattern here, and that's the concern.

She did share all of her passwords and has agreed to full transparency. I'm also not naive to know that while that's fine, if she really wants to she can get around that too.

So while I'm saying I'm putting this behind me, I mean I'm done discussing this incident. That doesn't mean that we continue forward business as usual.

I also didn't say I wasn't interested in what she was doing with whom. What I said was I wasn't interested in being married to someone where I had to be. Subtle difference, but wanted to make sure you understood that.

I caught the cashier on the store last night, an attractive woman probably in her mid 40s checking me out last night. When she was ringing me up she was a tad flirty. I know the world is my oyster if I were to move on from this MR. So please do not think I'm hanging on to this for dear life.

Thanks again for all of your wisdom and insight!