Yeah Dan her cheer squad probably encouraged things but let that go. Good friends would have told her to stick with it and work it out, like my friends did. In my sitch my XW told me she was sick of bitching about me to her friends and colleagues. These are the same people who my XW used to sing my praises to and ask for my help and advice on their behalf when they had issues that I could help with due to my area of expertise. Make sure when you see these friends and family you show the best version of you even if your insides are churning. Try to give a good and positive vibe. Read something on the law of attraction that talks about vibrational attraction. Dress masculine and impeccably at all times around your w, her friends and family. I posted on ozmans thread a few weeks ago some thoughts on dress, appearance etc.

Yes only respond when she reaches out. Polite concise and businesslike.

Good luck mate


Me: early 40's
XW: nearly 50
T: 15
M: 5
BD: Jan 19
S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24