Quote: as an HD woman do you only feel horny for your H or can you get desirous feelings just looking at some stranger in the street or an attractive guy in a photo? I'm pretty sure most if not all HD guys feel desire for other women at times. SD
See, I know most of the women are going to say it's specific to their H. When I was married, I did not ACT on it with others, but I was often attracted to (well,more than that-- got all hot and bothered) other men, in person, on TV, in pics. And sometimes, even ML with my at the time H, my mind would wander. Maybe to another man, maybe just to a different time with him.
I think I'm wired like a man? I swear though, I am a woman. I have references!
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Mojo, Were you a Tomboy when you were young? I ask because I had a friend a couple of years ago who was very HD and also interested in male things like sport, cars and motorcycles etc. She also did not have a "girly" dress sense. I asked her whether she was a Tomboy as a child and she said "How did you know?". SD
Your desire sounds similar to the first-couple wife in PM (Karen?). Her sexual desires were tied to her fantasies, and not just about her H. I thought it was interesting how they incorporated her H in the process.
Some sex does need the deep emotional connection. But Sex for FUN is just as important. I am seeing some LD's out there that are trying to improve, but it almost seems like a major production for some of them, like the emotion has to come from their deepest inner soul. Why not just have sex becuase it is fun and exciting. When two people sit down to talk, do they always have to have Deep Intimate Talks, or can they just shoot the breeze and have fun? Maybe us HD's scare them when we say we need the emotional connection of sex, so the LD's then think that EVERY sexual encounter requires some DEEP emotional connection. Or maybe it is so much work for them that it is a major effort to DIG DOWN DEEP, and they really can not think of sex as just a fun thing to do.
I'll answer your question even though it wasn't meant for me (LOL). I don't like cars or sports, but I also don't like shopping or dressing up, I do enjoy home repairs (though I suck at it) and I was very good at math and science and nothing pleased me more than to set the curve on a test and screw up the GPAs of the Young Republican jerks who attended my high school.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
My sexual tendencies run towards the male side (visually turned on, like lots of sex, etc) but I am not a tomboyish person at all. I don't care for shopping all that much, or scrapbooking or other more female type pursuits but my persona is feminine.
