This explains everything. When XW texted she still loved me etc. She had made a decision to breka up with the new man. She had figured that he is no good for her. And now there has been the hostile, accusing behaviour towards me. Well she took the man back. So there we have it.

Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.