#14 Here we go again

[SteveLW]

Steve, I have been gone for some time and am just now reading this. I'm so so sorry.

A few points:

There is no intuition like a LBSs intuition. There is a reason you snooped. Telling yourself that it is onesided isn't helpful. Not in the long run. Ongoing suspicion will poison any MR.

Trying to woo her back with sexy texts will not stop anything.

Creating distance will make any progress with OM easier.

Yes, patience is part of the plan, but every enabler has used patience to self-justify. This is obviously eating at you. Eventually it will show in your interaction and that won't help anything.

Stepping up and confronting will do two positive things. It will flush out a truth and enforce an Alpha approach. Notice I said "a truth" not the truth. I think you know what that means. Alpha behavior is more attractive than sexting.

I for one believe that nipping it in the bud is the way to proceed. How? Only you can know what works for you. Can you really keep calm regardless of how W responds? All these thoughts of having no expectations is prudent advice but not very practical.
All that Sandi writes seems accurate to me. A new MR without proper R and difficult work on both sides only leads to recurrences.
Just because things have been great doesn't mean they are fixed. We can't fix them. We can only set boundaries.

I will add your sitch to my prayer.

Thanks RR, I appreciate it. Just wanted to catch you up, I confronted this past Tuesday.

Thanks again!