I know the best of Steve doesn’t trump the worst of Steve but where does it end? There has to be forgiveness. If not then this never ends.
I 100% agree you shouldn’t be calling a lawyer right now and need to give it time. I’m just trying to keep you centered that this is all on her and she needs to do 100% of the heavy lifted or it will happen again.
You seem to have your doubts that she will do the heavy lifting.